Handling Buyer’s Rejection
Whoa! This is a hard pill to swallow if you’re experiencing this for the first time.
You’ve awaken early excited to get to your very first craft fair, coffee in hand, looking over your table with pride, ready to conquer the world.
Your items are displayed nicely, prices are reasonable, your banner hangs nicely and your tablemate knows exactly what she/he needs to do in case you have to step away from your booth for a minute of two.
And then she arrives…
Her hands are behind her back, like a teacher looking over your shoulder during a test. You smile and greet her with a warm hello. She responds with a stern look over her glasses, cracks a half-ass smile, and goes back to scanning your table.
You then respond by stating that if she has any questions please don’t hesitate to ask. And what happens next almost floors you.
She says, “These look like everything I’ve seen already. I can go to Kohl’s and find these same pieces.”
You stand there like a deer in headlights, your heart dropped two notches and you force the mask of a smile on your face. What…Just…Happened?!!! Of if you’re like me, your first thought was…WTF!!!!
Did this buyer just reject me?!
So now. Let’s talk about what’s really going on here. I mean before you snap because there are a few things we need to understand.
1. What just happened had NOTHING to do with you or your art.
2. We are NOT taking this personal.
3. Honestly, the opinions of others are just that. Opinions. They’re not factual and everyone’s entitled to one.
As an artist we feel our art are like our babies, we nurture them, we take care of them, and we feel like they are the best in the world. We love them and feel that everyone else should too. The reality is not everyone does or will and that’s okay.
One thing we MUST do as artists is to learn to separate ourselves from our pieces. In other words, this customer wasn’t judging you, just your pieces.
She wasn’t saying that you were not talented or that your pieces hold no value.
As a matter of fact, she kind of just gave you a compliment wrapped in insult (if you took it that way) because what she sort of said was that your pieces were so good that she could find them in a department store.
See how I just turned that negative into a positive? Yep it’s a thing and you can do it too.
Now I have to share something with you. That was a true story of an incident that actually happened at my very first craft fair.
So my question to you is, how would you have handled that situation?
What were some of your first thoughts while reading that scenario? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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I’ll never forget the day I was introduced to Lisa Nichols.
My mother was actually the one who instructed me to watch her YouTube videos and I instantly became attracted to her words. Later I learned of Lisa’s association with The Secret, and began digging through the vaults to learn more about this powerful woman with whom I now had a connection with, even though she didn’t know it.
One day while at work I ran across this quote:
Nothing To Prove
It became my screensaver, my mantra, my affirmation of the day, my life. Every time I was faced with a situation, I whispered to myself…..I have nothing to defend.
When approached by opposition, I would boldly say…..I have nothing to prove, and stand on those words. It was more than liberating, it was freeing. Finally I found the freedom in the strength of my voice that I had been searching for, the strength that during a time I thought I had lost.
It was THAT day that I realized the power of my words. Lisa Nichols had shown me how to use my words to move the mountains that were confining me.
This ONE quote inspired me to create a piece that would remind me EVERY DAY how powerful I am. How I can move through obstacles and liberate the voice that I had once quieted in order to make others around me feel comfortable, all the while, compromising my own comfort.
Diva With Nothing To Prove Bracelet
This bracelet was created for all Divas who need that subtle reminder that your voice is important. It’s a reminder that it is your right to proceed with boldness, class, intent.
The Diva With Nothing To Prove Bracelet is a representation of me expressing my voice through my art. I invite you to join me in this revolution! You too can be bold and make your version of this bracelet here.
What quote has inspired you to become a better version of you? Share and enlighten us. I’d love to high five and celebrate you. We ALL deserve that.
Wire wrapping has become one of the most popular jewelry making techniques in the industry. It looks extremely difficult but the truth is once you master the basic techniques, the sky’s the limit.
I was first drawn to this technique when I saw a beautiful amethyst gemstone which had been wire wrapped in silver at a bead show. It not only accentuated the color and body of the stone but it added flair and elegance to the stone, like nothing I had ever seen before. At that time I was taking a basic jewelry making course but after seeing that stone, I became curious and bought my first roll of wire.
It was then that I learned something valuable about this technique and its process. There are five skills one needs to master in wire wrapping:
- The Wire. When setting out to learn wire wrapping, it is imperative that you take time to learn about the various gauges of wire so that you know which gauge and type you’ll enjoy working with. Something important to know is the higher the number, the thinner the wire. Play with the gauges and feel how different they are to work with and in no time you’ll become best friends with one of them.
2. It’s All In The Wrist. I don’t care how many wire wrap artists you put in the same room, creating the same project, using the same exact design, the end result will differ from the person next to you, even if only slightly. The reason for this is because it’s all in your wrist. Writers use the same letters in the alphabet that everyone else has access to but the difference is in the way they construct words to formulate their voice and tone throughout their work. Wire wrapping is no different. All the creative energy you muster flows through your body and “your voice” is in your wrist. Your wrist is what controls the way you bend and form your wire, it’s where you develop style.
3. Lose Control. Guess what? When you’re first starting out and learning how to wrap your very first bead, allow yourself room to lose control. Relax and just experiment by playing with the wire so you can get used to handling it. You don’t have to try getting it right the first time, that’s way too much pressure to put on yourself. Have fun and flow with this new discovery. The look you are going for will come in time. Trust me.
4. Patience. Training your wire to do exactly what you want is like training a new puppy. The puppy is new to you and wants to do things its way because it doesn’t know what you want it to do so it does what it wants. I’m totally am not joking, like seriously the wire has a mind. The last thing you want to do is choke the heck out of the wire or squeeze and tug at it so bad that you strip it. Be gentle. Be patient. It will do exactly what you want when you love on it.
5. Practice. Practice is key. You probably thought I was going to start by saying that practice makes perfect. Nope. Absolutely not. There’s no such thing as perfection. I will say that practice makes you better. The key is to continue practice your technique until you’re satisfied with the outcome. And then….practice some more until you move past satisfaction. You’ll become a wire wrap diva in no time!
What’s the one thing you’ve learned while creating jewelry? Share your thoughts, I’d love to hear them.